This blog post is dedicated to Valentine’s Day, if you couldn’t tell by the photos already! There is so much pressure built up around this holiday. For those in a relationship, you feel like you must give the perfect gift and the right amount of effort to show how much you love your significant other or you’ll disappoint them. Like all your love for them must be transferred into one single gift. For those of you who are single, you feel sort of lonely. Almost as if no one loves you on this over-marketed day.
I’ve spent the last three Valentines Days alone or single. Whatever your prefer. One year, knowing I was feeling down, my mom surprised me at school with a bouquet of flowers and a nice dinner. That was by far one of my favorite Valentines. Last year, I had a tonsillectomy. On Valentines Day. It was terrible. The only good thing about it was I lost 10 pounds. But I gained it back within no time. You can’t keep me away from food after not being able to eat for an entire week. Again, my mother was there. She nursed me back to help, held my hand as I tried to eat, and watched episode after episode of Gossip Girl. She didn’t want me to feel alone.
I think this day should be filled with love from everyone, not just your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever. It’s about being there for someone to show them how much they mean to you, how your life wouldn’t be the same without them. It’s not about gifts either, its about showing your love for another person. This year, I finally have a Valentine. My boyfriend Matthew and I have been together for nine months, as we both work to finish our college degrees. Me in Illinois, and Matthew in Colorado. Long distance is hard. But with dedicated communication, Skype dates, and weekend trips, we make it work. We make it beautiful. He flew home to spend the weekend with me (he’s only home for 38 hours) and it’s about quality not about quantity. We hadn’t seen each other for five weeks and now that he’s here, it’s like he’s a mirage. I’m not sure if he’s real or not! (I only know he is because I keep pinching him to make sure)
For some, this day couldn’t get over quick enough and for others, you want it to last forever. Either way, you should know you are loved. With or without a man, you are loved. Whether it be your amazing mother, a best friend, or the love of your life, show them how much they mean to you. Happy Valentines Day!