It’s been 7 months since I made the move to Nashville. During that time, I’ve learned a lot of hard lessons about myself and what it means to be an adult.
Here are a few of them:
Friends come and go. High school friends might just stay in high school. College friends will even become distant as you move away from late night partying and pizza take out and move along to the real life that awaits you.
Your family misses you. While you are off exploring the life you want, they mourn the absence of you. Family wants to spend as much time with you as possible when you come home and they want you to call them to catch up and tell them about your life. And you should. Because one day you will miss them more than you ever thought you would.
Having a boyfriend while moving to a new place and meeting new people makes that long distance relationship you have that much harder. Because at least when you were home, they knew everyone you hung out with. Now, I have an entirely new life and new friends that he has never met.
Bills are real. And you have to pay them. Or this thing called your “credit score” plummets into a pit of “oh yeah, I forgot about that” and “is this real life?”
The honeymoon of a new adventure has long since worn off. The luster of a new city is still dimly lit, but it doesn’t shine as bright. It becomes less of a daydream and morphs into real life.
The holidays always put my mind into a state of deep reflection of who I was, what I accomplished, and what I failed at in the year behind me. And that reflection shows me what I need to do better in the year ahead.
Most of all this Christmas season, I am grateful for all the seasons in my life that made me into the stronger woman I am becoming. I graduated college, moved away, got my first real job, lost friends, made friends, wrote a book, quit my business of 2.5 years, and I’m learning more and more about who I am every day.
All of these things taught me something. What do the seasons of your life teach you? Do you stop and acknowledge that you are in a season, different from the rest? Whether it be a season of accomplishments, failures, indifference, regret, joy, or extreme transition, it is teaching you something. God places you in these periods of time to teach you more about yourself and more about Him – hoping you will press into Him to be your rock and not go elsewhere.
Seasons take from you and give to you. They take effort and give experiences.
Now, as we are all in a season of thankfulness and Christmas cheer – reflect on this past year. What about this year made you more or less of who you want to be? What will you do next year to be more of that person?